Pay attention to who claps when you win.
This is something I have learned to pay attention to and also learned the hard way (I’m sure like many of you)…who in your life is really FOR you? Not silently competing with you. The truth is - not everyone in your circle is in your corner.
I think what I’ve learned on this is that the people we feel most ourselves around know who THEY are. They’re settled in their spirit. They own their zone and don’t need to prove it to anyone.
You want to be a good friend? The kind that makes others feel their best when they’re with you? It starts with being you. Authentically you.
Do the work so you can live as the person God created you to be, healthy & whole, walking in your gifts. Investing in your own growth: spiritually, mentally, physically, emotionally. When you know who you are and you’re settled in that, you can root for others. When they win you can be genuinely happy because you’re running your own race. Not secretly wracked with envy.
Romans 12:15 says, “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” My pastor quotes Tom Shrader’s observation on this when he notes that Paul puts REJOICE WITH first because, in our human nature, this can be harder than mourning with another. Have you noticed?
My friend - If you don’t feel like you have this kind of support, don’t give up. Keep looking for it. Your circle should want to see you win.
If they don’t? You need a new circle.